I was grumbling in my bathroom today that some people are so difficult to love. I immediately heard the Lord speak back to my heart: “Love isn’t about you.”
Talk about a readjusted perspective!
It can be very difficult to love some people. Love though isn’t about the person doing the loving (us). Love is about the person we are loving.
If “love” is about us, it’s not love. It’s selfishness.
Agape love is the purest and most authentic form of love because it doesn’t expect anything in return. It’s not given based on the recipient’s worthiness or likability. It can’t be limited or withheld based on an infraction.
Love just pours itself out without any thought of itself. Love is never about self. Love is about the other person.
The following passage in Scripture reaffirms that love is the strongest character quality and emotion of all:
1 Corinthians 13
13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
I was thinking that fear is a very strong emotion, but notice how love is more powerful than fear. Love is truly the “trump card.”
1 John 4:18
18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.