Struggling with fear?
How do you live fearlessly in a world that has hidden dangers, agendas, and impending hurts?
What’s wrong with protecting oneself?
How do you love fearlessly in a dangerous and abusive world?
How do you trust when it may mean being hurt again?
Trust is essential to any good relationship, but doesn’t it make sense to hold back and keep your “best cards” hidden?
Want to know what the answer to fear is?
It’s living loved.
How do we live loved though if we don’t believe we are loved fully?
How do we offer what we don’t have or haven’t received (accepted/believed)?
There are some very clear differences between love and fear:
Fear walls against, locks out, controls, tries to predict, measures, withholds, imprisons, incapacitates…
Love empowers, gives freedom, enables, expands, gives generously, is limitless, hopes, receives, believes…
Fear is the scarcity mentality. It is a prisoner to the past and a prisoner to the unknown and what-ifs. It fears and expects the worst, instead of believing the best.
Fear holds any new relationship prisoner and answerable to the wounds of the past. The present and future are never released from the wounds of the past.
Fear says that my future is only preserved by hoarding my present.
Fear refuses to be vulnerable and transparent.
Love though is the abundance mentality. It overflows. It releases the present and future from the wounds of the past.
Each new relationship is received with the openness that comes from freedom from the past and a hope for the future.
Love focuses on others rather than protecting self.
Love is able to be vulnerable because to be loved is to be secure. When there is true security, there is no fear of vulnerability.
Love is an expanding force. It expands our borders, expands our abilities, expands our hopes, expands our giving and our receiving…
The relevance to understanding the difference between love and fear as it applies to my life and to your life is this:
I. Fear is rooted completely in self. It is completely self-centered and as a result imprisoning. It holds you, your circumstances, your dreams, your life purpose, and your loved ones prisoner to what hurt or scared you in the past and what might hurt or scare you again in the future.
You will never grow, expand, or be “all in” for God so long as you are a prisoner of your past.
II. Love is bigger than self and expands me beyond myself, my fears, my borders, my experiences, my past.
In order to live fearlessly, you must learn to live fully loved.
As I was contemplating this, I immediately thought of the verse:
1 John 4:18
18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.