I recently saw a friend’s comment on Facebook about how a lot of issues within the church are based on gender issues. I understand the validity and even pain of what she is saying because I certainly saw the reality of some of this personally. Yes, the Church has allowed some of those false ideas and lies from the past to remain. They are just labeled with “religious-sounding” terms so it sounds better or more Biblical.
Just because I call a dandelion a flower doesn’t make it so.
So often, terms have been falsely defined, and so we reject the term without understanding that within every lie, there is often a nugget of truth.
When Satan tempted Jesus in the wilderness, he took God’s Word but twisted it and misapplied it in the wrong context, making it a lie.
There is the term submission mentioned in the Bible, but it has been often twisted and misapplied in the wrong context. Within the same passage as submission is also God commanding husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the Church.
How did Christ love the Church?
How did Christ love the Church? By domineering, forcing submission, commanding their service while lording His position over them, devaluing them, ruling with harshness and unrelenting pride…? No! Rather, Christ served. He laid down His life. He listened. He healed. He cried. He restored. He forgave. Everything He did, He did for them. Christ did not come to the Earth to be served and but instead to serve. His was an example of humble, servant leadership, always seeking the best for the other person. He saw the value of the weakest, most vulnerable in society and acknowledged them and gave them His time and attention.
What Scripture shows is not one ruling, and the other serving and submissive/subdued. What Scripture shows is both husbands and wives are called to lay down their lives to love/serve another one. Both are called to put the others needs first. Both are called to Christ’s example of Agape love, which is the most selfless and humble love of all. Both are required to lay down their life for the other.
I wrote the following in response to my friend’s FB post, with some additional thoughts:
It is sad the way religion has abused women. It is also sad the way the world abuses women. One tells us that we are inferior to men. The other often continues to promote the same thing by taking it from a different angle, telling us that to be important we have to prove we are like men or better than men, which only says, “We are only important if we can prove our worth by being like a man or better than a man.”
What if the truth is, our uniqueness is part of our amazing, beautiful package of worth?!!! It’s not in being like a man or better than a man, because that actually feeds into the lie; it’s merely a reaction to the lie rather than the authenticity of the truth.
It’s also not about us being a sub-category, inferior, subdued, oppressed, or dominated.
The truth of what I see in Scripture is God restoring the broken image — the bad rap. women got at the Fall (false teaching, BTW). In religious circles, women are often blamed for the Fall.
God always noticed the down-trodden, the wounded, the vulnerable, the oppressed, and the undervalued. That is why I believe He made sure He restored that broken image by how He demonstrated His thoughts concerning women in His life on Earth.
Jesus revealed Himself to women who in that society often felt unnoticed, unloved, undervalued. He demonstrated that He saw, heard, and honored them.
Jesus allowed women to be the first ones present to testify of His resurrection. Women were the first ones to see and hear Jesus in His resurrected state. Interesting how the very things that women seem to feel within in religion — not seen or heard — are the very things Jesus did for them. He saw them and revealed Himself to them. He spoke to them and heard their cries.
God speaks of many women in the Bible whom He showed He valued, regardless of how society at the time regarded them. By lifting these women up and telling their stories, God shows that He heard and saw their worth. (See Abigail, Hannah, Sarah, Rebekah, Eve, Esther, Miriam, Jochebed, Rahab, Bathsheba, Deborah, Lydia, Priscilla, Dorcas, Mary Magdalene, Mary, Elisabeth, Mary and Martha, Samaritan Woman, woman caught in adultery, Tabitha, Damaris, Naomi, Ruth, and the list goes on.) Entire books of the Bible were dedicated to telling some of these women’s stories.
He showed in the Proverbs 31 woman a woman of amazing dignity, strength, resourcefulness, honor, and trust. She made the decisions for the running of her household, for doing business, for buying land. By sitting with the elders, her husband demonstrated great trust and respect in her abilities. She had freedom, responsibility, and the trust of her husband.
That’s the kind of woman God has called me to be, and I am thankful that His picture is of strength, dignity, honor, trust, resourcefulness, intelligence, wisdom, etc…!
God has restored in me so much of the image that was broken. God alone knows what our purpose looks like — religious doesn’t, and the world doesn’t. Each are just vying to react against each other — too busy pitting against one another.
The authentic image steps out and away from the mess and is secure in knowing her worth.
Religion rejects our image and undermines it. It says we are inferior and meant to be controlled and dominated by men.
The world rejects our image and tells us there is no value in the way we were created unless we compete to be like a man. This is nothing more than once again undermining our image.
Christ shows the Father’s heart, and what we see is that women are unique, a glory to God, they are clothed with strength and honor, virtuous, and our voices are heard. We are seen, we are heard, and we, as women, are valued. We don’t have just a place in God’s Kingdom. We are an integral part of His Kingdom!
If we want to know our value, we won’t find it in the world, and we won’t find it in religion. We will find it in the God who made us, who loves us, and who shows the greatest servant-leadership by lifting us up and calling us into positions of amazing influence and honor.
We don’t have to be more or different to be validated! We already are of infinite worth!