Last night, our family got to roller-skate with our church family. What a blast!
It brought back so many fun memories of skating as a child with my sister in our unfinished basement.
As an adult, it is so much fun to be able to skate now with my own kids! Last night, I loved being able to clown around with them, embarrass them a little, and just plain have fun!
As I was skating, I saw a kid that was really impressive in his skating abilities. While watching him, I overheard some of our visiting kids say, “He is a show-off.” I wish I had thought in the moment of an appropriate response, but I kept thinking later that evening: “It’s okay to let someone enjoy themselves, to enjoy something they are gifted in, and to not feel intimidated by someone else’s talent/gifting.”
I was thinking how easy it is to judge another person. Maybe the kid was showing off, but if so, maybe he was looking for someone to validate him. Either way, enjoying someone else’s talents and abilities doesn’t cost us anything except our own insecurity and pride.
Why does it bother people so much when someone is displaying skill and talent? Should we tell them to hold back or hide their skills? Is the issue really about them displaying too much skills/gifts, or is it more about us — our insecurity that doesn’t want someone to outshine us?
Why not let others shine?
I was impressed by one woman, whom I respect, who recently stated, “I get my good looks from my mom.” I have been raised to think that such a statement is arrogant, and it’s better to imitate weakness or to hide talents — to display false humility. It was such a different perspective to see someone own their blessings and gifts. Sometimes, it seems like we feel like we have to apologize for the blessings God has given to us.
A friend told me how someone recently said to her: “Humility isn’t the same as meekness.” How true!!!
In other words, you can be humble but also be bold at the same time. Just because you are “meek” or quiet doesn’t mean you are humble. You can walk around “passive” and “submissive” but be full of pride and a sense of superiority.
Last night, I decided not to worry whether someone would take it as arrogance or not but to skate my best and to have fun, to be silly, and to skate with joy and confidence.
There is so much freedom when we quit living our lives to please everyone around us but live to please the Lord!!!
The result was I felt more confident on my skates, I had a blast with my husband, and I had fun with my kids and the other kids on the rink. During a couple of the songs, as I felt the freedom to skate confidently and to allow myself to skate my very best, I couldn’t help but feel Abba-Daddy’s delight in me. I couldn’t help but feel the pure joy that comes from living my life to His credit and to know that I can live my life with bold confidence because I live in the assurance that I am beloved and cherished by my Heavenly Father.