On numerous occasions, I find myself either reminding another sweet “sister” or “brother” in Christ or myself the truth of who we are. Why do we need to be so constantly reminded of this?
Most of us can recite to one another the truth of who we are (who we really are), but when it comes to believing it and thus living it, that’s an entirely different story.
Perhaps to understand why this is such a constant battle — knowing who we truly are — we need to understand why this is so important.
It’s simply this: what you believe about yourself will ultimately influence the person you will live out or be. Let me say that again:
What you believe about yourself will ultimately determine the person you are living as and the person you will become.
If you are constantly feeding your mind with the lies — that you are worthless, ugly, stupid, fearful, rejected, unloved, unwanted, inferior, etc…, you will self-fulfill those very lies. You will unknowingly self-initiate the very things you believe about yourself.
You may have experienced rejection in the past, but instead of healing and knowing that what you experienced is not the truth of who you are, you will continue to live rejection. Instead of not allowing the opinions and lies of others to “roll off” you, you will “take them in.” As a dear friend said, “You’ll make a pet of them.”
Perhaps, this is one of the biggest reasons why there is a constant attack on our “identity” — who we are. It’s because we can waste a lot of our life living from the wrong identity instead of living in the freedom of who we were created to be.
Some of us live from a more subtle identity of lies. We are living from the “good” identities. We think our worth is based on how “godly,” spiritual, and kind we are. We think our worth is performance-based. We try to impress everyone around us with how wise, faith-filled, serving we are. We can so easily fool ourselves into thinking the motives are all good because we are doing good things — Bible-approved things. Plus, we receive affirmation and praise from others. Oh how subtle the deception can be!
Godliness though is not something we do for God. It’s something we do from God. Godliness is us submitting ourselves to the sovereignty of God’s grace and power at work in our lives. It is His initiation and our surrendered response.
4 You have become estranged from Christ, you who attempt to be justified by law; you have fallen from grace.
Some of us are deriving our sense of worth from our beauty, our independence, our accomplishments, our intelligence, our possessions, and our education.
The truth is: your worth has never been about what you do — how “profitable” you are to the world or even more to God.
Your worth is about Whose you are!
It’s not about your earthly parents — what they are or aren’t. It’s not about how horrible or not so horrible they were.
Some of you are hurting right now because of the painful things people — even people you respect or love — have said about you or to you. Perhaps, they were speaking from their own fears, their own experiences, and their own deception. Whatever the case, these wounds are real. (In my next blog post, “Offenses,” I plan to write more about what to do with those wounds.)
The first thing you need to understand is that God alone creates reality. He is truth. The opinions of others don’t create reality. There may be truth they have gained from God’s world, laws, and Word, but this doesn’t mean everything they say or think is truth.
So often we base our own sense of worth and identity upon the opinions of others. The truth is they have no power over you — unless you give it to them by believing what they say or think about you.
Remember who you are!
3 The Lord has appeared of old to me, saying:
“Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love;
Therefore with loving-kindness I have drawn you.
You were created for a purpose by a loving and good God.
11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.
Perhaps, you have never accepted God’s gift of salvation for you. Here is a fairly familiar verse:
16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
He loved you that much! He desires your presence, your fellowship, and a relationship with you because He loves YOU!