There’s a lot of interest right now in the topic of “bullying.” In fact, I recently wrote an article on “Christian Bullying” that got a lot of attention.
Sometimes though, it is so easy to focus on the wrongs among the people “out there” rather than the wrongs within ourselves.
This time, the magnifying glass may need to come a little closer to home.
As I wrote the article on “Christian Bullying,” I found myself re-evaluating my own personal actions and attitudes within my home. I didn’t want to write about a topic about which I myself might be guilty.
There will be times when we will all struggle with the more “common” sins. A question to be asked is: “Is this sinful attitude present in my heart?”
If the answer is yes, I need to confess this before the Lord and to truly repent, which means to change the way in which I was going.
The root attitudes behind bullying are pride and fear. Both of these sinful heart attitudes are very common and at the root of most sins. Perhaps even all sins.
Pride and fear work together. They stem from the same lie.
Since both pride and fear are very common sinful attitudes, it’s a VERY good chance that those same sinful attitudes are prevalent in our own hearts and influence our own actions from time-to-time.
As I allowed God’s Holy Spirit to reveal my own attitudes to me, I began to see more clearly that “bullying” can be a lot closer to home than I might want to admit.
I began to hear God’s “quiet voice” (Holy Spirit) speaking to my heart to reveal that I need to be cleaning out my own “closets”, “pantries”, and “sock drawers.”
It’s easy for us to be so busy pointing out the flaws in our husbands, kids, relatives, and other Christians that we avoid looking at our own personal wrong attitudes and wrong actions.
Why do we shy away from that which is uncomfortable? Fear?
Why do we fear God’s “scalpel” that seeks to remove all the “dead growth” in our lives, all the “infectious wounds” from past hurts and lies? Again, is it because we fear our wrong version of God? Do we think that by admitting our sin(s), we will be forever condemned?
God knows of our sins. He is All-Knowing!
Isn’t that the definition of “God” — that He is the most Powerful and All-Knowing Being? If He knows about our sins already, how does our attempts to hide them help our case at all?
Adam and Eve tried to hide from God in the Garden of Eden. When they sinned for the first time, they discovered that the “knowing”, Satan (in the snake) promised, was a crushing awareness and personal acquaintance with their own sin. They “knew” what sin is and the debilitating guilt and fear that accompanies it.
Adam and Eve had sought life outside of God and found death instead.
God had given them every tree in the Garden of Eden to eat, including the Tree of Life, EXCEPT for the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil.
Just like the rest of humanity is often guilty of, Adam and Eve chose to eat the one thing they were told not to eat. They chose to find “life” outside of God.
Adam and Eve had disconnected themselves from their true Source of Life and had instead looked to the Knowledge of Good and Evil as its source.
So much of “religion” stems from that same tree. “Religion” is often about trying to find our “spiritual life” from a knowledge of good and evil. That knowledge will either lead us to personally feeling condemned and living in fear, or it will lead to a proud and/or judgmental attitude — that we are better than those around us or that we are our own source of defining what is good and not good. The roots are the same.
When Adam and Eve sinned, everything changed! Their world changed. Death entered. Their fellowship with God was hurt.
Then Jesus came.
God’s plan was to send a Savior to fix the problems that started when sin first entered.
The Savior would connect man back into the True Source of Life (an intimate relationship with God Himself) and would work to separate man from his false “roots” of security (Knowledge of Good & Evil).
The Savior would neither leave the sinner condemned nor condone the “weeds” of sin but would work to replace fear with peace and faith, to replace pride with delighting in God’s character and who we are in Him.
Neither pride nor fear can be present when we are walking in an intimate relationship and understanding of God and Who He is and Who we are in Him.
There is no room for condemning others when we truly understand Who God is. There is no room for fear when we personally know God.
Fear and pride come when we are disconnected from God — when we seek to find “life” outside of God.
We hang onto these “rags” when God wants to give us the richness of His grace!
Those bullies in our closet, those rags in our drawers, those dirt piles in our corners … let’s open the doors and the drawers and turn on the lights. It’s time we stopped trying to hide and cover our shame and allow God to purify and heal us from the inside out!
God’s plan was never to leave us hidden in the dark or to leave us condemned by our own guilt. His plan was always to reconnect us to our True Source of Life!
As we are “connected” to Life, we can become a true “channel” to the world around us for God’s love and light to flow.
“How I praise Thee, precious Saviour,
That Thy love laid hold of me;
Thou hast saved and cleansed and filled me
That I might Thy channel be.
“Channels only, blessèd Master,
But with all Thy wondrous power
Flowing through us, Thou canst use us
Every day and every hour.
“Just a channel full of blessing,
To the thirsty hearts around;
To tell out Thy full salvation
All Thy loving message sound.
“Emptied that Thou shouldest fill me,
A clean vessel in Thy hand;
With no power but as Thou givest
Graciously with each command.”
By Mary Maxwell