The past few days have been amazing! Let’s just say that I feel as if a cloud was lifted off me. I know my dad, my husband, and my secret prayer sister have been praying — maybe many others. I just know that I have sensed those prayers.
I have been loving my earlier morning risings; I am able to have devotions, read some from a wonderful parenting book, get a shower, raise the blinds, prepare breakfast, and then lovingly welcome my children to a new day.
Here are a few tips from my new parenting book that I have been implementing that has been so helpful:
1. Anger is good for indicating a problem but never for solving it. Separate the two.
2. Establish the relationship before addressing behaviors. Do this by first getting your children to come to you or going to them. Then lovingly give clear instructions. First, state the goal for what you want to accomplish and then ask the child to do their part. This emphasizes team work.
3. Ask three questions following a discipline:
“What did you do that was wrong?”
“What was wrong with it?”
“What can you do differently next time?”
4. The goal of discipline is to work your children to reconciliation and to be able to wisely respond to correction, to respond to our vocal commands without needing a repeat or consequence.
There are so many other wonderful things in the books, but those are some of the best for our family so far. The books are called: Say Goodbye to Whining and Good And Angry.
I have been so thrilled by hearing my children respond with good attitudes, by them not resorting to hitting as a means of solving a disagreement, etc… So much victory, and I am humbled and amazed.
My heart is at peace and joyful. The Lord has given me so much patience, and His wisdom is what I seek and then try to share with my kids.
Here is a note I wrote along those lines:
“Just wanted to say that God is so good! He has filled my heart to overflowing with joy! I am amazed by His grace — so rich, so unfailing, so full of light and life! Tears fill my eyes as I ponder these moments, these evidences of His grace… in the eager smiles of my children as they run obediently to me, in the cheers as we play a game together, in the muddy boots that are running with my boys, in the victory to not yield to sin’s temptation to impatiently answer my children but to lovingly demonstrate…”
“And time, this moment, slowed and entered into, might be a cathedral giving glory to God…”
Some recent special moments:
A shelf that holds our printer broke. The printer was precariously hanging above our monitor. I tried lifting it but couldn’t. I unhooked the monitor and moved it out of the way. I then unhooked the printer. Again, I tried to lift it but couldn’t. I knew if I left it, we would probably have a broken printer plus more. I loved Drew’s response to the problem, he said, “Mommy, let’s pray.” So, we did just that. The Lord then gave me the wisdom to know how to lift the shelf so that I could then get a better grip under the printer and then finally lift the printer out of the way. The boys and I were then able to stop and thank the Lord for his help. Another exciting example for the boys and I in how God does answer prayer!