Letters to My Sons

Dear precious sons of mine,

I am almost afraid to begin this letter for fear that I won’t do it justice or write what I really want to write.  I know your daddy is going to be arriving any minute so it’s a race against the clock to finish this.  I have been wanting to write you guys a letter though to express some thoughts that are in my heart.

First of all, I want to say how thankful I am and humbled and honored to be your mother.  I have often thought that God could have given you another mom — one that could do a much better job of raising you guys.  Yet, He gave you to me!  That is amazing!  In my parenting of you, I am saddened to think of the times when I have made mistakes and not been the best mommy that I could/can be to you.  For that, my dear sons, I am most sorry.  This letter though is not to be a focus on the what-if’s or if-only’s but rather on those things that I would say to you if these were my final and last words to you.

So here goes…  In growing up, I always had a deep respect for a model of godly manhood and leadership.  I always had a heart to encourage young men to be all that God had called them to be.  So when God gave you to me, I was humbled and awed to be entrusted with such a huge responsibility as training and raising up the next generation of godly leaders.  You see, sons, I know that God has great plans for your life, and I have great hopes for your lives as well.  Why?  Because I know that we have a great God who specializes in taking mere mortals and transforming us into vessels for His honor.

My dear sons, in writing this letter I reflect back on my special moments with you guys — those precious first moments of holding you, moments when my heart is overwhelmed with the wonder of childhood and your own dear cute ways.  I love when you pick me dandelions to put in my hair, when you ask me for one more hug and kiss, when you still want me to rock you before bed, when you run to open my car door, and when you try to comfort me when I am sick.  You guys are so amazing, so manly even now!

I can’t help but imagine what it will be like when you are all grown up.  It fills my heart with wonder even at the thought!  My dear sons, may I challenge you and call to your minds the training you have received from reading God’s Word, memorizing it, from sitting in church, and from listening to us share about God’s workings in our lives.  My sons, the most important thing in life is to first recognize that life is never fully realized and enjoyed until one has come to know the Giver of Life.  My prayer first of all is that you would all personally know Him as Lord and Savior of your lives.  May God give you hungry hearts for Him and humble hearts to obediently submit and learn from Him.

My sons, may you commit your hearts and bodies unto the Lord.  There are so many temptations that you will face.  I tremble for you, my sons, when I consider the difficulties and anguish you will suffer as you learn to temper your own desires and submit them to the Lord.  This world offers a gawdy and showy package that appears delectable, but upon consumption, it becomes as empty and meaningless as cotton candy.  Sons, hold out for the best.  It is so worth the wait!

When I met your father, it was not his outward image that drew me.  (Yes, I did love his blue eyes.)  Rather, it was a humble and gentle heart that I saw that attracted me.  Your dad has become such an encouragement to me as I see the godly father he has become and is becoming.  He is so patient and loving and yet firm.  I love that!  My sons, I am so glad that I waited for the right one!  If God has marriage in mind for you, don’t settle for something less than the best.  Set your standards high — maybe impossibly high.  Then, work on becoming the man of God that is worthy of such a girl.

I love how your dad is such a servant and willing to help in so many ways.  He knows how to be romantic and to compliment.  Sons, treat a woman with respect.  Treat your wife with respect, and she will not help but treat you with respect.  Honor and remember that you are called to love her as Christ loved the Church.  In preparation for being a good husband, first be a good brother-in-Christ.  Always treat women with respect — even if they act dishonorably.  Be a gentleman because you are a gentleman — not because she is a lady or isn’t.  Remember that as a young man, you are called to protect women.  Part of that protecting is to honor her purity by not treating her as a cheap object of your lust.  Again this is not based on her own purity but on yours.  My sons, this will not be easy, but God has equipped you with every “tool” that you will need for this task.

My sons, remember that in preparation to be a good and godly leader, you must first learn how to serve.  The best leaders are always the best servers.  One can quietly “lead” or guide others into truth by simply and even quietly serving.  Be also willing to speak a word when directed by God in due season but with grace.  Remember that “In the multitude of words there lacketh not sin.”

Dear sons of mine, I know that there is so much more for me to say; yet, I am starting to tire.  Darling sons of mine, I hope that in this letter you will see even more the depth of love that I have for you and how I pray and eagerly await the unveiling of the wonderful men of God that He has called you to be!

For now, you are just little boys, and your life is about eating tasty meals, getting hugs and kisses, spending time with us, and having someone there to bandage your hurts.  But some day, when you are old enough to read this, I hope you will remember that there was a woman who gave birth to you and who loves you with all her heart and who prays for God’s will to be done in your lives.

Blessings precious, sons of mine,

Your mother

5 thoughts on “Letters to My Sons

  1. Okay, crying over here…

    Somebody told me that it doesn’t matter how many mistakes you make with your children, as long as they know that you LOVE them! Unconditionally! It really is about relationships with your kids. If they know, without a shadow of a doubt, that they are loved and known by their parents, they will not push you away. You, Amy, are a great example of this! I know you love those boys to death, because I’ve seen it!

    1. mommyofboyz

      Ruth, you are right! I love my boys so deeply; yet, struggle sometimes to express it as eloquently. I am determined to keep improving in that. I want my boys to see my heart, to feel my heart, and to know my heart. Better yet, I want to feel my Father’s heart, to see it, to know it so that I might pass that on to the boys.

  2. Amy, you sure know how to make a grandfather cry! That was the most beautiful outpouring of a mothers heart that I have ever read. When the boys are old enough to understand it they will know how much you love them and how blessed they are to be your sons. With a Godly mother like you, they will surely turn out to be great men of faith; a blessing to every one they meet. You never cease to amaze me. I don’t think mom has seen this yet or she would have told me. She has been so busy with the Alternative Gift Fair that she is behind in a lot of other things. We raised about $12,000 for ten organizations including ASP of course. It’s late and I’d love to write all night but 6:15 comes very early and I have a few more things to do before “hitting the rack” Love y’all Pop-Pop

    1. mommyofboyz

      Thanks, Dad! Keep praying for us. I so sense people’s prayers at times and know they are what have helped at so many times. Yes, I do find time for your son. He is afterall my most important person on this earth! 🙂

  3. Bambi

    So the tears are flowing freely over here this morning now ; ) Amy I love your heart for your children. It’s so beautiful to observe you and what a priviledge to enter your thoughts like this. Keep on being the great wife and mommy that you are. Lots of love ( and wishes for peace and rest!)

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